Do Not Search for Love…

In love, never seek someone to be your ‘better half’ or to ‘complete’ you – be the whole person you already are. YOU are ‘The One’. Only when two whole people come together can lives be truly shared. You both need to have an existing life to share in – not be out to share…

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Rationalism and Honesty…

Whether we are thinking through a lunch menu or pondering the big questions, if we are honest within ourselves, reflecting on how we feel as we reason in the moment, then we can be confident in our thinking… I think. Here is where head and hearts can align or, we can notice that they are…

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Average is a Mean Illusion

🤔What does an average mind or body look like? Where would we find one? All our notions of ‘normal’ and ideal are illusions – in many cases ones we all collaborate in! Averages are concepts that only exist because of human VARIETY – how ironic! Statistics are a great tool to understand populations or groups…

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Upon reflection…

“O wad some Power the giftie gie us  To see oursels as ithers see us! ” Robert Burns, To A Louse My favourite line from my homeland’s national bard. It is part of Scottish schooling to learn and recite Burns form a very young age where we would win certificates and the teary-eyed pride of…

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Perfectly Presented or a Work in Progress?

Why do we all worry about perfection and presentation? Because we think everyone else is achieving it? Or that despite not being perfect themselves, they will judge imperfection? Well… if they do, let them. If they are seeking perfection in you… it’s because they lack so much more in themselves. Focus on being REAL. On…

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Dis-Comfort Zones

What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like to think. Despite its name, your ‘Comfort Zone’ isn’t necessarily…

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Preaching to the Subverted

Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque theatre and in advocating psychological wellbeing.  My ‘angle’ overall was…

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Loss(t) in Space

Loss occurs in many ways. It hurts, but must we always Iose? In the past year I’ve seen friends and family experience different losses – the loss of loved ones (through death, dementia, divorce and even unresolved dispute), the loss of personal ability and opportunity as changes occur in health, job position, home or career move,…

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Aspire to be without Ambition

Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling.  I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired in the moment. Ambition involves competition and therefore comparison to…

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Life in a Universe of Diversity

We live in a universe of ultimate diversity and yet are simultaneously bonded together by the one mystery we call ‘Life’.  To truly live we must be open to the vast experience available all around us. To do so we are blessed with curiosity. We are all made of the same star stuff, yet expressed…

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