Feeling like a FRAUD?

Imposter Syndrome is the crushing feeling that you are somehow fraudulent in your identity as an expert or leader in your field/ genre; an imposter. Under-qualified to comment, act or be regarded as credible despite a wealth of insight and experience – despite your expertise.  You feel overwhelmed by the feeling that you just do…

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Upon reflection…

“O wad some Power the giftie gie us  To see oursels as ithers see us! ” Robert Burns, To A Louse My favourite line from my homeland’s national bard. It is part of Scottish schooling to learn and recite Burns form a very young age where we would win certificates and the teary-eyed pride of…

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Dis-Comfort Zones

What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like to think. Despite its name, your ‘Comfort Zone’ isn’t necessarily…

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Preaching to the Subverted

Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque theatre and in advocating psychological wellbeing.  My ‘angle’ overall was…

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Doubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.

IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including itself. When you apply doubt to doubt itself, you create…

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Anxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About

Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. Quite literally we worry about nothing.

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Egos can hurt…

Ouch! When someone is inexplicably mean it is often because they are licking an unconscious wound…. Damage to our self-image can take many forms and wounds can be inflicted in any ways. From deliberate insult to personal failure, typically a bruised ego affects only the owner who feels tender(ised) on the inside… but a broken ego…

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IFFY use of Wellbeing quotes…

Whilst there are many millions of great motivational quotes to be shared, there is an unhealthy trend for disgruntled folks to post wellbeing word memes as a form of thinly veiled bitchy commentary – don’t fall for it! If you feel uncomfortable seeing one, ask yourself why? Afterall they are INTENDED to uplift, right? Don’t…

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IFFY Decision making…

“What if I make the wrong decision?!” How many of us are held back by this immobilising dark cloud?  Everyone knows that ‘fight or flight’ is a fear response to threat, but there is a third… ‘freeze’. Indecision is immobilising because it is a fear response so if you see a dark cloud and you…

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