It’s time to get some perspective and see clearly why coaching without niche focus is in need of close examining. With an increasing trend for getting a coach / becoming a coach, it’s hard to cut the wheat from the chaff. It’s not surprising as ‘ambiguity’ plays a growing role in what is increasingly a…
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Do Not Search for Love…
In love, never seek someone to be your ‘better half’ or to ‘complete’ you – be the whole person you already are. YOU are ‘The One’. Only when two whole people come together can lives be truly shared. You both need to have an existing life to share in – not be out to share…
Rationalism and Honesty…
Whether we are thinking through a lunch menu or pondering the big questions, if we are honest within ourselves, reflecting on how we feel as we reason in the moment, then we can be confident in our thinking… I think. Here is where head and hearts can align or, we can notice that they are…
Upon reflection…
“O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us! ” Robert Burns, To A Louse My favourite line from my homeland’s national bard. It is part of Scottish schooling to learn and recite Burns form a very young age where we would win certificates and the teary-eyed pride of…
Perfectly Presented or a Work in Progress?
Why do we all worry about perfection and presentation? Because we think everyone else is achieving it? Or that despite not being perfect themselves, they will judge imperfection? Well… if they do, let them. If they are seeking perfection in you… it’s because they lack so much more in themselves. Focus on being REAL. On…
Dis-Comfort Zones
What if your perceived comfort is the very thing that creates your discomfort with your lot in life? There is an uncomfortable truth lurking in the shadows of our comfort zones: they are more self-made prisons than the personal playgrounds or protective bubbles we like to think. Despite its name, your ‘Comfort Zone’ isn’t necessarily…
Preaching to the Subverted
Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque theatre and in advocating psychological wellbeing. My ‘angle’ overall was…
Aspire to be without Ambition
Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling. I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired in the moment. Ambition involves competition and therefore comparison to…
Doubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.
IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including itself. When you apply doubt to doubt itself, you create…
Anxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About
Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. Quite literally we worry about nothing.