Preaching to the Subverted

Last Winter I was invited to speak as part of a panel discussion on the topic of ‘transgender’ hosted by Rev. Michael Hampson of the Church of England, at St. Margaret’s Church in Hornby. My contributions were drawn from my long experience in both burlesque theatre and in advocating psychological wellbeing.  My ‘angle’ overall was…

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Loss(t) in Space

Loss occurs in many ways. It hurts, but must we always Iose? In the past year I’ve seen friends and family experience different losses – the loss of loved ones (through death, dementia, divorce and even unresolved dispute), the loss of personal ability and opportunity as changes occur in health, job position, home or career move,…

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Aspire to be without Ambition

Ambition is rather IFFY…. It is often seen as something to be proud of – or a personal quality that would ensure “success”, whatever that is… but it’s all so hypothetical and future-dwelling.  I say it’s time to put ambition on hold and be inspired in the moment. Ambition involves competition and therefore comparison to…

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Life in a Universe of Diversity

We live in a universe of ultimate diversity and yet are simultaneously bonded together by the one mystery we call ‘Life’.  To truly live we must be open to the vast experience available all around us. To do so we are blessed with curiosity. We are all made of the same star stuff, yet expressed…

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Doubt creates Hope – An anxiety hack.

IF you are anxious then you are using doubt, a lot. If you are to give any credibility to your doubt and test it’s validity then you need to apply it in a parsimonious way – that is, apply it radically and fairly to everything…including itself. When you apply doubt to doubt itself, you create…

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Why burlesque could be good for you.

Why burlesque could be good for you. In the face of ever-evolving social and artistic controversy over burlesque as a form of entertainment, I’d like to volunteer my tuppence-worth on an overlooked aspect of participation.  As someone who has meaningful experience in both the promotion of burlesque theatre and mental health interventions, I believe that…

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Anxiety – It’s Nothing to Worry About

Often when we are anxious, we worry about everything. But…. Everything of course, is no-thing in particular. Furthermore, we fixate on our version of past events or future possible mishaps – and fail to see that the only time that ever exists is the ‘now’. Quite literally we worry about nothing.

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Gossip: A Bitter Pill – but only poisonous if you swallow it…

“Malicious gossip is a bitter pill indeed – but it’s only poisonous if you swallow it.” The irony is that it is not just the target who must avoid swallowing. For gossip to spread and be effective, it needs carriers. Those who spread it – gladly swallow it whole – and become embroiled in unnecessary…

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Egos can hurt…

Ouch! When someone is inexplicably mean it is often because they are licking an unconscious wound…. Damage to our self-image can take many forms and wounds can be inflicted in any ways. From deliberate insult to personal failure, typically a bruised ego affects only the owner who feels tender(ised) on the inside… but a broken ego…

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